Sunday, June 17, 2007

An extract of which I read and I reflected upon...

Love is the source of life. Within the twelve links of interdependent orgination is 'grasping' or 'attachment' and we are in this cycle of death and rebirth because of attachment and love.

Relationship and love does not mean just the love between men and women, but also between parents and children, friends, siblings, a person and his country and so on. These are all expression of love. Even a person's hobby is also a special feeling, a kind of love.Everyone needs love but there is polluted love, pure love, possessive love and sacrificial love. Emotions are like water. There is an old adage, 'A raft is carried by water but can also be capsided by it'. We should therefore handle our emotions with care.Nobody belong to another person, not even his/her beloved. It is not possible to own a person totally, nor is there any assurance that one will never lose the beloved.

The sacred truth of relationship lies in having no expectations. Loving a person means not wanting or excpecting anything from the person you love. When you love a person, you are willing to treat him/her well because you feel happy doing so. Why should we be w/o expectations in relationships? This is becaouse we cannot always give the other anything expect love. Why does love seem to become a burden for some in the end? The main reason is that we think that love means possessing the other person.In reality, it is not possible to be totally of one mind with another. There are things you enjoy doing together, and also things that you do independently.

Love is giving, and not taking. It is not calculative, because in the first place, you were born having nothing. The strength of love can make people forget everything. Conditional love could be so petty that it would not tolerate even a single grain of sand. When you are able to love, don't give it up easily. Do not harbour regrets or waste the present moment. Have dreams of the future. Happiness is not in having a lot but in not being calculative.You cannot control the weather, but you can control your moods and play your role to the best of your ability. To be happy, one should cherish what one has and forget about what you don't have. Greed is the real poverty, contentment is real wealth. You can use love to enjoy the world but also lose it all with hatred.

Hey! Doesn't this sound like one of my previous entries - http://transient-lifetime.blogspot.com/2006/09/meaning-of-love.html