life is simple; why make it complicated?

I didn't really have much inspiration to blog these few days. But now, I think it has finally returned to my side. I read Ishy aka Meena's blog already. I agree, there's some truth in it. But, it's a very controversial topic. Why or Do guys only go for girl's who are beauty on the outside? I have just began reading my latest addition to my collection of books - "The Art of Intimacy; The Pleasure of Passion", and this should be able to address the latter.

All of us go to school. What's the purpose behind it? To learn something, to gain knowledge and to broaden our horizons. All that, are all theory based and we never knew how to deal with affairs of the heart based on those theories we learnt in school. Too bad, we were never educated in the School of Intimacy and it was never part of the curriculum that we were taught to deal with feelings. Back to the point, it's quite true to a certain extent that most guys usually go for girls who has beauty, fairness, and, everything that can be seen with the eyes. Most people at our age only know how to see with the eyes, not the heart. It's saddening though; but I guess, it's also a societal problem. With the rising number of divorce rates; same analogy, people are breaking up only after marriage or getting together when their significant half has fully revealed his/her character. Most people look for partners to complement themselves, for instance, a woman who is a shy and poor in communicating would look for a guy who is outgoing and good in inter-personal skills. The woman tries to make up for her deficit by looking for a partner who has the qualities she does not have. As time passes, the couple being together, would actually "accquire" the opposite qualities. She, now being "influenced" by her partner, becomes outgoing and an extrovert. This is where "like poles" of a magnet start to repel.

Many youngsters nowadays have claimed to find their significant halves and proclaim that their halves are the one-in-a-million, they would love each other forever, they would love each other till the end of time, blah blah blah. Some relationships would stay, some would just be gone with the wind. Regardless of how long the couple have been in the relationship together. Why did all that happen? Simple.

Every thing at this point in time are all just "Love @ first sight". When those guys see a better "Second Sight"; time change, things also change. It's a sad thing. Yes, there is no hard and fast rule that Love is only extended to those who are above 21 or whatsoever. But at least, people should be dealing with affairs of the heart using the heart! It's okay to look, but before you get yourself involved, be sure of what you are doing. Are you in it because you truly love your other half; both of you are not together just to fill the void in your hearts?

Think. Reflect. Decide.

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Sunday, July 29, 2007